Umthambo wokumamela ngokukhutheleyo lithuba elihle lokuphucula izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula kwaye wonwabe. Ukuba ngumphulaphuli okhutheleyo kunokuzenzekela kwaye kunokuphuhliswa.
Izakhono zokuphulaphula zibaluleke kakhulu kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo. Awunakukwazi ukunxibelelana kakuhle ukuba awungomameli kakuhle.
Izakhono zokuphulaphula zibaluleke kakhulu kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho, ubomi bomntu kunye nobungcali. Uphando lukwacebisa ukuba ukuphulaphula ngenyameko kune ezininzi zeenzuzo zempilo njengokufunda okungcono, inkumbulo ephuculweyo, ukunyanga iingxaki zokuxhalaba, njl.
Kweli nqaku, uya kufunda inkcazo yokuphulaphula ngokusebenzayo, imizekelo yezakhono zokuphulaphula ngokusebenzayo, kunye nokuzivocavoca okusebenzayo.
Isiqulatho
Zeziphi iZakhono zokuMamela ngokuSebenzayo?
Ukuphulaphula ngenkuthalo kubhekisa kwinkqubo yokuphulaphula ngenyameko nokuqonda okuthethwa ngomnye umntu. Le ndlela yokuphulaphula yenza ukuba isithethi sizive siviwa kwaye sixatyisiwe.
Izakhono zokuphulaphula ngokukhutheleyo kukukwazi ukwenza iinzame zokuphulaphula ngenyameko nokuqonda imiyalezo yesithethi.
Ngezantsi kukho imizekelo yezakhono zokuphulaphula ngokusebenzayo:
- bakubeke
- Buza imibuzo evulelekileyo
- Nika ingqalelo kwaye uyibonise
- Hlukana nomgwebo
- Ziphephe iziphazamiso
- Nika ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezingezizo ezomlomo
- Buza imibuzo ecacileyo
- Nika isiqinisekiso somlomo esifutshane njl.
20 Umthambo wokuMamela Ngokukhuthala
Le mizobo engama-20 yokumamela ngokusebenzayo ihlelwe ngokwezintlu ezine zingezantsi:
- Yenza isithethi sivakalelwe
- Mamela ukugcina ulwazi
- Buza imibuzo
- Nika ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezingabonakaliyo.
Yenza isithethi sivakalelwe
Ukuphulaphula ngenkuthalo kumalunga nokwenza isithethi sivakale siviwa. Njengomphulaphuli osebenzayo, kufuneka uhlawule ingqwalasela epheleleyo kwaye uyibonise.
Le mizobo yokuphulaphula isebenzayo iya kukunceda ubonise abantu ukuba unikel' ingqalelo kwimiyalezo yabo.
1. Dwelisa imizekelo yezakhono zokuphulaphula ezilungileyo nezingalunganga ozaziyo
Ubuchule bokumamela obufanelekileyo bubandakanya ukunqwala, ukuncuma, ukugcina ukudibana kwamehlo, ukubonisa uvelwano, njl.
Izakhono zokumamela ezingalunganga zinokubandakanya: ukujonga ifowuni yakho okanye iwotshi, ukugruzula, ukuphazamisa, ukuphindaphinda iimpendulo, njl.
Lo msebenzi uya kukwenza wazi izakhono zokuphepha kunye nezakhono zokuphuhlisa.
2. Cela umntu ukuba abelane ngamava akhe exesha elidlulileyo
Xelela abahlobo bakho okanye amalungu osapho lwakho, ngakumbi ababini, ukwabelana ngebali labo elidlulileyo. Ngokomzekelo, xa umntu esibhedlele ngosuku lokuqala eyunivesithi, njl.
Xa umamele umntu wokuqala, zama ukubuza imibuzo. Emva koko, yabelana ngamava afanayo xa uphulaphule omnye umntu.
Buza isithethi ngasinye xa siziva siviwa yaye sihlonelwa.
3. Ikhefu lemizuzu emi-3
Kulo msebenzi, isithethi sithetha ngekhefu labo lokuphupha imizuzu emithathu. Isithethi kufuneka sichaze into esiyifunayo kwiholide kodwa ngaphandle kokukhankanya indawo ekusingise kuyo.
Ngoxa isithethi sithetha, umphulaphuli unikela ingqalelo aze asebenzise kuphela iimpawu ezingabhekiseliyo ekuboniseni umdla koko sikuthethayo isithethi.
Emva kwemizuzu emi-3, umphulaphuli kufuneka ashwankathele amanqaku aphambili eholide yephupha lesithethi aze aqikelele igama lendawo ekuyiwa kuyo.
Emva koko isithethi sijonga ukuba umphulaphuli ebesondele kangakanani na kwinto ebeyithethile nayidingayo. Kwakhona, isithethi sihlola iimpawu zomphulaphuli ezingezizo ezezwi.
4. Xoxa ngesihloko ngokubanzi nomhlobo wakho
Dibanisa nomhlobo wakho nixoxe ngomxholo jikelele. Umzekelo, ukunyuka kwamaxabiso.
Ngamnye kuni makatshintshisane ngokuba sisithethi okanye umphulaphuli. Xa isithethi sigqibile ukuthetha, umphulaphuli ufanele aphinde iingongoma eziziintloko zesithethi aze asincome.
5. Ezininzi-to-enye vs enye-to-enye
Yiba nencoko yeqela kunye nabahlobo bakho (ubuncinci 3). Vumela umntu abe mnye ngexesha.
Emva koko, yiba nencoko nomntu ngamnye kubo. Buza, baziva nini kakhulu? Ngaba inani labathathi-nxaxheba libalulekile?
6. Thetha ngamazwi athethwa sisithethi
Buza umhlobo wakho ukuba akuxelele ngaye ngokwakhe - incwadi yakhe ayithandayo, amava amabi kakhulu obomi, njl.
Njengoko ethetha, gcina ulwimi lomzimba olufanelekileyo njengokunqwala kwaye unike iziqinisekiso zomlomo ezinjengokuthi "Ndiyavuma," "Ndiyaqonda," njl.
Xa umhlobo wakho (isithethi) egqibile ukuthetha, phinda oko akuthethileyo. Umzekelo, "Ndikuvile usithi imvumi oyithandayo ngu..."
Mamela ukugcina ulwazi
Ukuphulaphula ngenkuthalo ayikokwenza nje ukuba isithethi sivakale siviwe okanye ukunika iimpawu ezingezizo ezomlomo. Kwakhona kufuna ukuba abaphulaphuli benze umgudu onyanisekileyo wokukhumbula oko bakuvayo.
Le misebenzi ilandelayo yokuphulaphula isebenzayo iya kukunceda ekugcineni ulwazi.
7. Cela umntu abalise ibali
Cela umntu akufundele amabali kwaye uxelele umntu ukuba akubuze imibuzo emva kokubalisa ibali.
Imibuzo efana no “ngubani igama lomlinganiswa?” “Ungalishwankathela ibali?” njl.
8. Ngubani owayithethayo?
Lo msebenzi wokuphulaphula ngokusebenzayo ubandakanya iinxalenye ezimbini:
Icandelo 1: Kufuneka ubukele imuvi okanye isiqendu sothotho nomhlobo. Mamela ingxoxo nganye ngokucacileyo.
Icandelo 2: Cela umhlobo wakho akubuze imibuzo esekelwe kwinto ethethwe ngumlinganiswa othile.
Umzekelo, ngowuphi umlinganiswa owathi ubomi abunangxaki?
9. Funda incwadi yamabali
Ukuba akunamntu onokubalisa ibali, funda iincwadi zamabali amafutshane ezisoloko zinemibuzo ekupheleni kwesahluko ngasinye.
Emva kokufunda isahluko ngasinye, phendula imibuzo uze ubuyele ukuze ufunde eso sahluko ukuze ukhangele ukuba iimpendulo zakho bezichanile kusini na.
10. Qaphela
Ebudeni bentetho esikolweni okanye emsebenzini, phulaphula isithethi, uze ubhale phantsi imiyalezo yaso ngamazwi akho okt.
Ungasoloko ubuyela kweli nqaku Inokuba ulibale nawuphi na wemiyalezo yesithethi.
11. Dlala umdlalo “wokutshintsha indawo”
Lo ngumsebenzi wabantu ababini. Cela umhlobo wakho akufundele ibali elifutshane. Emva koko kufuneka ayifunde kwakhona, emva kokwenza utshintsho oluthile.
Ngalo lonke ixesha usiva utshintsho, qhwaba okanye uphakamise isandla sakho ukubonisa ukuba bekukho ithuba.
12. Yibambe imibuzo yakho
Xelela abahlobo bakho ukuba benze iqela le-WhatsApp. Banike isihloko esithile abaza kuxoxa ngaso kwiqela.
Abahlobo bakho (bonke abakwiqela) kufuneka babe ngabalawuli. Nawe kufuneka ufakwe kule group but ungabi admin.
Phambi kokuba abahlobo bakho baqale ukuxoxa, useto lweqela kufuneka lutshintshwe lube ngabalawuli kuphela abanokuthumela imiyalezo.
Emva kokuba begqibile ukuxoxa ngesihloko, banokuvula iqela, ukuze ube nokubuza imibuzo yakho.
Ngale ndlela awunakukhetha ngaphandle kokugcina imibuzo yakho ide igqibe ukuthetha. Akusayi kubakho ndawo yokuphazamiseka.
13. Funda isithuba seblogi ende
Zama ukufunda inqaku elide (ubuncinci amagama angama-1,500). Nika ingqalelo epheleleyo xa ufunda eli nqaku.
Uninzi lwababhali bamanqaku badla ngokubongeza imibuzo ekupheleni kwenqaku. Jonga le mibuzo kwaye unike iimpendulo kwicandelo lamagqabaza.
Buza imibuzo
Ukubuza imibuzo echaphazelekayo kubaluleke kakhulu ekumameleni ngenkuthalo. Unokubuza imibuzo ukuze ufumane ingcaciso okanye ufumane ulwazi olongezelelweyo.
Le misebenzi iya kukunceda ngokubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
14. Ingcaciso vs Akukho ngcaciso
Xelela umhlobo wakho ukuba akuthumele kumsebenzi othile. Umzekelo, ndincede ngebhegi yam. Hamba uze nayo nayiphi na ibhegi ngaphandle kokubuza imibuzo.
Xelela umhlobo omnye ukuba akuthumele kumsebenzi kwakhona. Umzekelo, ndincede ngesihlangu sam. Kodwa ngeli xesha cela ingcaciso.
Unokubuza le mibuzo:
- Ngaba uthetha isihlangu sakho esicaba okanye iiteki zakho?
- Ngaba iiteki ezibomvu?
Emva kokwenza le misebenzi, buza umhlobo wakho ukuba umzise nini ngendlela eyanelisayo. Ngaba wawubuza imibuzo okanye wawungayibuzanga?
Lo msebenzi wokuphulaphula ngokukhutheleyo ufundisa ukubaluleka kokufuna ingcaciso ukuphucula ukuqonda komntu isihloko.
15. Dlala umdlalo wokuzoba
Lo ngomnye umthambo wabantu ababini. Unokwenza lo msebenzi kunye nabahlobo bakho, abantakwenu, okanye nabazali bakho.
Xelela umhlobo wakho (okanye nabani na omkhethayo njengeqabane lakho) ukuba afumane iphepha elinemilo eyahlukeneyo efana nonxantathu, izangqa, izikwere, njl.
Kufuneka ufumane ipensile kunye nephepha kodwa elingenanto. Emva koko, wena nomhlobo wakho kufuneka nihlale ngasemva.
Cela umhlobo wakho ukuba achaze imilo ekwiphepha kunye naye. Emva koko zoba iimilo ezisekelwe kwiimpendulo ezivela kumhlobo wakho.
Ekugqibeleni, omabini amaphepha kufuneka athelekiswe ukubona ukuba uwuphindaphinde ngokuchanekileyo umzobo.
Lo msebenzi uza kukubonisa ukubaluleka kokubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo ukuze ufumane ulwazi oluyimfuneko.
16. IZithathu Kutheni
Lo msebenzi ufuna abantu ababini - isithethi kunye nomphulaphuli.
Isithethi siya kuthetha ngaso nasiphi na isihloko abasithandayo malunga nomzuzu. Emva koko, umphulaphuli kufuneka anikele ingqalelo epheleleyo koko sikuthethayo aze akwazi ukubuza imibuzo ethi “kutheni”.
Le mibuzo ayikaphendulwa sisithethi kumzuzu omnye wokuthetha. Injongo kukufumana imibuzo engakhange iphendulwe sisithethi.
Lo msebenzi uza kukunceda ufunde indlela yokubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo, eya kunika ulwazi olongezelelweyo.
Nika ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezingabonakaliyo
Iimpawu ezingezizo zamagama ziyakwazi ukunxibelelana amawakawaka amagama. Ngexesha lencoko, kufuneka uhlale unolwazi ngeempawu zakho ezingezizo ezolwimi kunye nezesithethi.
Le misebenzi yokuphulaphula ngokukhutheleyo iya kukufundisa ukubaluleka kokunikela ingqalelo kwizikhokelo ezingezizo ezolwimi.
17. Thetha nomphulaphuli ongekho ngqondweni
Lo ngumsebenzi wabantu ababini, apho isithethi sithetha ngento esiyithanda kakhulu. Isithethi kufuneka sisebenzise iimpawu zobuso, izimbo zomzimba, njl.njl.
Umphulaphuli, ongaziwa kwisithethi, kufuneka ayalwe ukuba abonise ukungathandi usebenzisa iimpawu ezingabonakaliyo ezifana nokujonga ifowuni, ukuzamla, ukujonga kwigumbi, ukungqiyama esitulweni, njl.
Kuya kubakho utshintsho kulwimi lomzimba wesithethi. Isithethi siya kuphoxeka ngokwenene kwaye sicaphuke.
Lo msebenzi ubonisa ukubaluleka kwezikhokelo ezingezizo ezomlomo ezivela kumphulaphuli ukuya kwisithethi.
18. Lingise
Lo ngumsebenzi wabantu ababini. Nika umntu, mhlawumbi umhlobo wakho okanye umlingane wakho, ibali afunde.
Umhlobo wakho kufuneka afunde ibali malunga nemizuzu emi-5 aze eze namabinzana abona kufanelekile ukuba alichaze ibali.
Ekupheleni kwemizuzu emi-5, xelela umhlobo wakho ukuba achaze ibali ngeendlela ezingezizo ezolwimi. Kufuneka uziqonde ezi zikhokelo zingezizo ezozwi kwaye uxelele umhlobo wakho ukuba ibali lingantoni.
Lo msebenzi uza kukunceda uphuhlise ukuqonda kweempawu ezingezizo ezolwimi. Uya kufunda kwakhona indlela yokufunda amagama angabonakaliyo.
19. Phulaphula ungakhange uthethe
Cela umntu ukuba akuxelele ibali ngobomi bakhe - elifana nokuchaza umcimbi wabo wokugqibela wokuzalwa.
Mamela ngaphandle kokuthetha nantoni na kodwa unike iimpawu ezingezizo ezolwimi. Buza umntu ukuba imiqondiso yakho engabonakaliyo iyakhuthaza okanye hayi.
20. Qikelela uMfanekiso
Kulo msebenzi, kufuneka wenze iqela (ubuncinane abantu aba-4). Iqela likhetha umntu omnye ukuba ahlole umfanekiso kwaye achaze umfanekiso usebenzisa izijekulo zezandla kunye nezinye iimpawu ezingabonakaliyo.
Lo mntu uya kujongana nomfanekiso kwaye amanye amalungu eqela akayi kujongana nomfanekiso. Amalungu eqela aseleyo azama ukuqikelela igama lomfanekiso ochazwe ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu ezingabonakaliyo.
Dlala lo mdlalo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye utshintshe iindima namanye amalungu eqela. Lo msebenzi uya kukufundisa indlela yokufunda kunye nokutolika izikhokelo ezingezizo ezo lwimi.
Sincoma kwakhona:
- Izakhono zoNxibelelwano lokuMamela: IsiKhokelo esiGqibeleleyo
- Izakhono zoNxibelelwano eziBhaliweyo: IsiKhokelo esiGqibeleleyo
- IZakhono zoNxibelelwano ezingezizo ezolwimi: IsiKhokelo esiGqibeleleyo
- Izinto eziluncedo nezingeloncedo ngokuFunda Iincwadi.
isiphelo
Ezi zakhono zidweliswe ngentla apha ngasentla ziyakwazi ukuphucula ukukwazi kwakho ukumamela ngokukhutheleyo.
Ukuba unqwenela ukuphucula izakhono zakho zokumamela ngakumbi, jonga inqaku lethu lokumamela ngokusebenzayo. Uya kufunda izakhono eziphambili zokumamela ezisebenzayo eziza kutshintsha ubomi bakho.
Singathanda ukwazi ukuba ukhe wasebenzisa nawuphi na umthambo wokumamela ngokusebenzayo. Ngaba kukho ukuphucuka oye wakubona? Sazise kwiCandelo lamagqabaza.