Izivivinyo zokulalela ezisebenzayo ziyithuba elihle lokuthuthukisa amakhono akho okulalela asebenzayo futhi ujabule. Ukuba isilaleli esikhuthele kungase kuzenzekele futhi kungathuthukiswa.
Amakhono okulalela abaluleke kakhulu ekukhulumisaneni ngempumelelo. Ngeke ukwazi ukukhuluma kahle uma ungeyena isilaleli esihle.
Amakhono okulalela abalulekile abaluleke kakhulu kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwakho, kokubili impilo yomuntu siqu kanye neyomsebenzi. Ucwaningo luphinde luphakamise ukuthi ukulalela okusebenzayo kune eziningi izinzuzo zezempilo njengokufunda okungcono, inkumbulo ethuthukisiwe, ukwelapha izinkinga zokukhathazeka, njll.
Kulesi sihloko, uzofunda incazelo yokulalela okusebenzayo, izibonelo zamakhono okulalela asebenzayo, nokuzivocavoca okusebenzayo kokulalela.
Okuqukethwe
Ayini Amakhono Okulalela Okusebenzayo?
Ukulalela ngentshiseko kusho inqubo yokulalelisisa nokuqonda ukuthi uthini omunye umuntu. Le ndlela yokulalela yenza isikhulumi sizizwe sizwakele futhi saziswa.
Amakhono okulalela okusebenzayo yikhono lokwenza umzamo obonakalayo wokulalelisisa nokuqonda imilayezo yesikhulumi.
Ngezansi ezinye izibonelo zamakhono okulalela asebenzayo:
- bakubeke ngenye indlela
- Buza imibuzo evulekile
- Naka futhi ukubonise
- Bamba ukwahlulela
- Gwema iziphazamiso
- Naka izimpawu ezingakhulumi
- Buza imibuzo ecacisa
- Nikeza isiqinisekiso esifushane somlomo njll.
Izivivinyo Ezisebenzayo zokulalela ezingama-20
Lezi zivivinyo zokulalela ezisebenzayo ezingama-20 zihlelwe ngokwezigaba ezine ngezansi:
- Yenza isikhulumi sizizwe sizwakele
- Lalela ukuze ugcine ulwazi
- Buza imibuzo
- Naka izimpawu ezingasho lutho.
Yenza isikhulumi sizizwe sizwakele
Ukulalela ngentshiseko kumayelana nokwenza isikhulumi sizizwe sizwakele. Njengomlaleli okhuthele, kufanele unake ngokugcwele futhi ukubonise.
Lezi zivivinyo zokulalela ezisebenzayo zizokusiza ukuthi ubonise abantu ukuthi uyayinaka imilayezo yabo.
1. Bhala izibonelo zamakhono amahle namabi okulalela owaziyo
Amakhono amahle okulalela ahlanganisa ukunqekuzisa ikhanda, ukumamatheka, ukugcina ubheka emehlweni, ukubonisa uzwela, njll.
Amakhono amabi okulalela angase ahlanganise: ukubuka ifoni noma iwashi lakho, ukudlidliza, ukuphazamisa, ukuphindaphinda izimpendulo, njll.
Lo msebenzi uzokwenza wazi amakhono okufanele uwagweme kanye namakhono okufanele uwathuthukise.
2. Cela othile ukuthi abelane ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwangaphambilini
Tshela abangani bakho noma amalungu omndeni, okungcono ababili, ukuze babelane ngendaba yesikhathi sabo esidlule. Isibonelo, lapho umuntu elele esibhedlela ngosuku lokuqala enyuvesi, njll.
Lapho ulalele umuntu wokuqala, zama ukubuza imibuzo. Ngemva kwalokho, yabelana ngezinto ezifanayo lapho ulalele omunye umuntu.
Buza isikhulumi ngasinye ukuthi sizizwa nini futhi sihlonishwa nini.
3. Iholide lemizuzu emi-3
Kulo msebenzi, isikhulumi sikhuluma ngeholide labo lamaphupho imizuzu emithathu. Isikhulumi kufanele sichaze ukuthi sifunani eholidini kodwa singasho ngendawo okuyiwa kuyo.
Lapho isikhulumi sikhuluma, isilaleli siyanaka futhi sisebenzise izimpawu ezingasho lutho ukuze zibonise isithakazelo kulokho isikhulumi esikushoyo.
Ngemuva kwemizuzu emi-3, umlaleli kufanele afingqe amaphuzu abalulekile eholide lesikhulumi abese eqagela igama lendawo.
Bese isikhulumi sibuyekeza ukuthi umlaleli ubesondele kangakanani kulokho akushilo nakudingayo. Futhi, isikhulumi sibukeza izimpawu ezingasho lutho zomlaleli.
4. Xoxa ngesihloko esijwayelekile nomngane wakho
Bhanqa nomngane wakho futhi nixoxe ngesihloko esijwayelekile. Ngokwesibonelo, ukwehla kwamandla emali.
Ngamunye wenu kufanele ashintshane ngokuba yisikhulumi noma isilaleli. Lapho isikhulumi sesiqedile ukukhuluma, isilaleli kufanele siphinde amaphuzu ayinhloko esikhulumi futhi asincome.
5. Abaningi-kuya-koyedwa vs One-to-one
Iba nengxoxo yeqembu nabangani bakho (okungenani 3). Vumela umuntu oyedwa akhulume ngesikhathi.
Bese, yiba nengxoxo yomuntu nomuntu ngamunye. Buza, bazizwa nini kakhulu? Ingabe inani labahlanganyeli libalulekile?
6. Fanisa lokho okushiwo isikhulumi
Cela umngane wakho ukuthi akutshele ngaye - incwadi ayintandokazi yakhe, isipiliyoni esibi kakhulu empilweni, njll.
Njengoba ekhuluma, gcina ulimi oluhle lomzimba njengokuvuma ngekhanda futhi unikeze iziqinisekiso zamazwi njengokuthi “Ngiyavuma,” “ngiyaqonda,” njll.
Uma umngane wakho (isikhulumi) eseqedile ukukhuluma, phinda akushilo. Isibonelo, “Ngikuzwe uthi umculi omthandayo ngu...”
Lalela ukuze ugcine ulwazi
Ukulalela ngenkuthalo akukhona nje ukwenza isikhulumi sizizwe sizwakele noma ukunikeza izimpawu ezingasho lutho. Kudinga nezilaleli ukuba zenze umzamo oqotho wokukhumbula ezikuzwayo.
Imisebenzi elandelayo yokulalela esebenzayo izokusiza ekugcineni ulwazi.
7. Cela othile ukuthi axoxe indaba
Cela othile ukuthi akufundele izindaba bese utshela lowo muntu ukuthi akubuze imibuzo ngemva kokuxoxa indaba.
Imibuzo efana nokuthi “bekungubani igama lomlingiswa?” “Ungakwazi ukuyifingqa indaba?” njll.
8. Ubani Owakusho?
Lo msebenzi wokulalela osebenzayo ubandakanya izingxenye ezimbili:
Ingxenye 1: Kufanele ubukele imuvi noma isiqephu sochungechunge nomngane. Lalela inkhulumomphendvulwano ngayinye ngokucacile.
Ingxenye 2: Cela umngane wakho ukuthi akubuze imibuzo esekelwe kulokho okushiwo umlingiswa othile.
Isibonelo, yimuphi umlingiswa owathi impilo ayinankinga?
9. Funda incwadi yezindaba
Uma ungenaye umuntu ongakutshela indaba, funda izincwadi zezindaba ezimfushane ezivame ukuba nemibuzo ekupheleni kwesahluko ngasinye.
Ngemva kokufunda isahluko ngasinye, phendula imibuzo bese ubuyela emuva ukuze ufunde isahluko ukuze uhlole ukuthi izimpendulo zakho zilungile yini.
10. Qaphela
Ngesikhathi sezethulo esikoleni noma emsebenzini, lalela isikhulumi, bese ubhala phansi imiyalezo yaso ngamazwi akho okungukuthi beka ngamazwi akho.
Ungakwazi njalo ukubuyela emuva kuleli nothi Uma ukhohlwa noma yimiphi imilayezo yesipika.
11. Dlala igeyimu ethi “spot the change”
Lona umsebenzi wabantu ababili. Cela umngane wakho ukuthi akufundele indaba emfushane. Khona-ke kufanele ayifunde futhi, ngemva kokwenza izinguquko ezithile.
Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma uzwa ushintsho, shaya izandla noma uphakamise isandla sakho ukukhombisa ukuthi bekunethuba.
12. Bamba imibuzo yakho
Tshela abangani bakho ukuthi bakhe iqembu le-WhatsApp. Banikeze isihloko esithize abazoxoxa ngaso eqenjini.
Abangani bakho (bonke abaseqenjini) kufanele babe ngabaphathi. Kufanele futhi ungezwe kuleli qembu kodwa akufanele ube umlawuli.
Ngaphambi kokuthi abangani bakho baqale ukuxoxa, izilungiselelo zeqembu kufanele zishintshwe zibe abalawuli kuphela abangathumela imilayezo.
Ngemva kokuba sebeqedile ukuxoxa ngesihloko, bangavula iqembu, ukuze ukwazi ukubuza imibuzo yakho.
Ngale ndlela awunakukhetha kodwa ukugcina imibuzo yakho ize iqede ukukhuluma. Ngeke ibe khona indawo yeziphazamiso.
13. Funda iposi elide lebhulogi
Zama ukufunda indatshana ende (okungenani amagama ayi-1,500). Naka ngokugcwele lapho ufunda lesi sihloko.
Iningi lababhali bendatshana bavamise ukwengeza imibuzo ekugcineni kwesihloko. Bheka le mibuzo bese unikeza izimpendulo esigabeni sokuphawula.
Buza imibuzo
Ukubuza imibuzo efanele kubaluleke kakhulu ekulaleleni ngenkuthalo. Ungabuza imibuzo ukuze uthole ukucaciseleka noma uthole ulwazi olwengeziwe.
Lezi zivivinyo zizokusiza ngokubuza imibuzo efanele ngesikhathi esifanele.
14. Ukucaciswa vs Akukho ukucaciswa
Tshela umngane wakho ukuthi akuthumele umlayezo. Ngokwesibonelo, ngisize ngesikhwama sami. Hamba uphathe noma yisiphi isikhwama ngaphandle kokubuza imibuzo.
Tshela umngane ofanayo ukuthi akuthumele emsebenzini futhi. Ngokwesibonelo, ngisize ngesicathulo sami. Kodwa kulokhu cela ukucaciselwa.
Ungabuza le mibuzo:
- Ngabe usho isicathulo sakho esiyisicaba noma amateki akho?
- Ingabe amateku abomvu?
Ngemva kokwenza le misebenzi, buza umngane wakho ukuthi umlethele nini ngokugculiseka kwakhe. Ingabe kwakungesikhathi ubuza imibuzo noma ungabuzanga?
Lo msebenzi wokulalela ngokukhuthele ufundisa ukubaluleka kokufuna ukucaciseleka ukuze uthuthukise ukuqonda komuntu isihloko.
15. Dlala umdlalo wokudweba
Lona omunye umsebenzi womuntu ababili. Lo msebenzi ungakwenza nabangani bakho, izingane zakini, noma nabazali bakho.
Tshela umngane wakho (noma noma ubani omkhethayo njengomlingani wakho) ukuthi athole ishidi eliqukethe izimo ezihlukahlukene ezifana nonxantathu, imibuthano, izikwele, njll.
Kufanele uthole ipensela nephepha kodwa elingenalutho. Khona-ke, wena nomngane wakho kufanele nihlale ngemuva.
Cela umngane wakho ukuthi achaze izimo eziseshidini kanye naye. Bese udweba amajamo ngokusekelwe ezimpendulweni ezivela kumngane wakho.
Okokugcina, womabili amashidi kufanele aqhathaniswe ukuze ubone ukuthi uwuphindaphinde ngokunembile umdwebo.
Lo msebenzi uzokukhombisa ukubaluleka kokubuza imibuzo efanele ukuze uthole ulwazi oludingekayo.
16. Izizathu Ezintathu
Lo msebenzi udinga abantu ababili - isikhulumi nomlaleli.
Isikhulumi sizokhuluma nganoma yisiphi isihloko abasithandayo isikhathi esingangomzuzu. Khona-ke, isilaleli kudingeka sinakisise lokho isikhulumi esikushoyo futhi akwazi ukubuza imibuzo ethi “kungani”.
Le mibuzo ayikaphendulwa isikhulumi phakathi nomzuzu owodwa wokukhuluma. Umqondo uwukuthola imibuzo engakaphendulwa yisikhulumi.
Lolu hlelo lokusebenza luzokusiza ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungabuza kanjani imibuzo efanele, ezokunikeza ulwazi olwengeziwe.
Naka izimpawu ezingasho lutho
Izimpawu ezingasho lutho ziyakwazi ukuxhumana nezinkulungwane zamagama. Phakathi nezingxoxo, kufanele uhlale wazi izimpawu zakho ezingasho lutho kanye nezesikhulumi.
Lezi zivivinyo zokulalela ezisebenzayo zizokufundisa ukubaluleka kokunaka izinkomba ezingakhulumi.
17. Khuluma nomlaleli ongenangqondo
Lokhu kuwumsebenzi wabantu ababili, lapho isikhulumi sikhuluma ngento abanothando ngayo. Isikhulumi kufanele sisebenzise izimpawu eziningi ezingasho lutho njengesimo sobuso, ukuthinta kwezandla, njll.
Umlaleli, ongaziwa yisikhulumi, kufanele ayalwe ukuba abonise ukungathandeki esebenzisa izimpawu ezingasho lutho njengokubuka ifoni, ukuzamula, ukugqolozela igumbi, ukuncika esihlalweni, njll.
Kuzoba noshintsho kulimi lomzimba lesikhulumi. Isikhulumi sizokhungatheka futhi sicasuke ngempela.
Lo msebenzi ukhombisa ukubaluleka kwezimpawu ezinhle ezingasho lutho ezivela kumlaleli ziye kusikhulumi.
18. Lingisa
Lona umsebenzi wabantu ababili. Nikeza othile, mhlawumbe umngane wakho noma osebenza naye, indaba ozoyifunda.
Umngane wakho kufanele afunde indaba isikhathi esingangemizuzu emi-5 bese eveza izinkulumo abona zifanelekile ukuyichaza indaba.
Ekupheleni kwemizuzu emi-5, tshela umngane wakho ukuthi achaze indaba esebenzisa izimpawu ezingasho amazwi. Kufanele uqonde lezi zimpawu ezingasho amazwi bese utshela umngane wakho ukuthi indaba imayelana nani.
Lo msebenzi uzokusiza uthuthukise ukuqonda kwezimpawu ezingasho lutho. Uzofunda futhi ukufunda izinkomba ezingasho lutho.
19. Lalela ungasho lutho
Cela othile ukuthi akuxoxele indaba ngempilo yakhe - njengokuchaza umcimbi wabo wokugcina wosuku lokuzalwa.
Lalela ngaphandle kokusho lutho kodwa unikeze izimpawu ezingasho lutho. Buza umuntu ukuthi amasignali akho angakhulumi ayakhuthaza yini noma cha.
20. Qagela Isithombe
Kulo msebenzi, udinga ukwakha iqembu (okungenani abantu abangu-4). Ithimba likhetha umuntu oyedwa ozohlola isithombe futhi achaze isithombe kusetshenziswa ukuthinta kwezandla nezinye izimpawu ezingasho lutho.
Lo muntu uzobe ebheke isithombe futhi amanye amalungu eqembu ngeke abhekane nesithombe. Amalungu eqembu asele azama ukuqagela igama lesithombe esichazwe ngokusekelwe kuzimpawu ezingasho lutho.
Dlala lo mdlalo ngokuphindaphindiwe, futhi nishintshane ngezindima namanye amalungu eqembu. Lolu hlelo lokusebenza luzokufundisa ukuthi ungafunda kanjani futhi uhumushe izinkomba ezingasho lutho.
Siphakamisa futhi:
- Amakhono Okuxhumana Okulalela: Umhlahlandlela Ophelele
- Amakhono Okuxhumana Okubhaliwe: Umhlahlandlela Ophelele
- Amakhono Okuxhumana Okungakhulumi: Umhlahlandlela Ophelele
- Izinzuzo Nebubi Bokufunda Izincwadi.
Isiphetho
Amakhono okulalela okubalwe ngenhla ayakwazi ukuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokulalela ngenkuthalo.
Uma ufisa ukuthuthukisa amakhono akho okulalela kakhulu, hlola i-athikili yethu yokulalela ngokuqhubekayo. Uzofunda amakhono abalulekile okulalela asebenzayo azoshintsha impilo yakho.
Sithanda ukwazi ukuthi ngabe uke wasebenzisa noma yiziphi izivivinyo zokulalela ezisebenzayo. Ingabe kukhona ukuthuthuka okubonile? Sazise esigabeni samazwana.